 A pleasure in its own right
You and your partner can enjoy erotic massage as an end in itself, not necessarily as a prelude to sex. The key is to make it clear that you are giving him or her a gift, without desire for a reward. Learn to derive joy from your partner’s body, and from the pleasure you give. Enjoy the moans and sighs you are able provoke simply by using your hands, fingers, mouth, hair, and voice in different ways.
The recipient is able to enjoy a feeling of freedom and intense relaxation, but there are advantages for the masseur, too. When you massage without an agenda or goal, the flow of energy becomes a cycle, passing between you and building up to a reciprocal exchange of pleasure. So the ecstasy is mutual!
Everyone has a unique response to massage so a masseur should never try to manipulate or “direct” the recipient into any particular reaction or experience. Erotic massage should be nourishing, loving, holistic, and empowering for both the giver and receiver. Massage is not about “doing” something to another person but about “giving” to each other, and being together in the moment. |
